"Amma's Pride" chronicles the inspiring story of Srija, who, with her mother Valli's unwavering support, became the first transgender woman in Tamil Nadu to legally marry. Despite societal challenges, they hope to change perceptions around trans identities in India, advocating for visibility and acceptance.
"Breaking Boundaries: A Mother's Support in a Transgender Marriage in India"
"Breaking Boundaries: A Mother's Support in a Transgender Marriage in India"
A heartwarming documentary, "Amma's Pride," sheds light on the groundbreaking journey of Srija, India's first transgender woman to legally marry, and the critical role her mother played in her fight for recognition.
In 2019, Srija made history by becoming the first transgender woman in Tamil Nadu to legally marry her partner, Arun, after a significant court ruling. This journey is the focus of the documentary "Amma's Pride," which highlights Srija's battles and the steadfast support of her mother, Valli. "Srija is a gift," Valli expresses during an emotional embrace with her daughter. Srija, now 25, acknowledges the pivotal role her mother has played in her life, attributing her accomplishments in education and career to Valli’s dedication.
The narrative begins with Srija meeting Arun in 2017; they quickly formed a deep connection and fell in love. "We wanted legal recognition like every other couple," Srija shares, emphasizing the rights and protections that come with marriage. Despite the Indian Supreme Court offering some protections for transgender individuals in 2014, same-sex marriages remain unrecognized, leaving a complex atmosphere for LGBTQ+ couples seeking legal validation of their relationships.
The couple faced significant hurdles while trying to register their marriage. Their application was rejected based on the outdated terms of the 1955 Hindu Marriage Act, which defined marriage strictly as a union between a "bride" and a "groom." Nonetheless, Srija and Arun, with the backing of LGBT activists, persisted, resulting in national visibility for their cause. In a landmark ruling in 2019, the Madras High Court acknowledged the right of transgender individuals to be classified within the legal definitions of marriage.
However, their journey was not without its challenges, including discrimination and threats from society. After media coverage of their marriage, Arun experienced job loss, highlighting the prejudice many LGBTQ+ individuals continue to face in India. Despite these difficulties, Srija excelled academically, earning a degree in English literature and becoming a role model within her family, a feat her mother is proud of given her own limited education.
Valli's dedication has also cost her personally. Following Srija's coming out at 17, they faced rejection from their landlord and some family members. Nevertheless, Valli has unwaveringly supported her daughter, even sacrificing personal belongings to fund Srija's gender reassignment. "I will always stand by my daughter," she assures, emphasizing the necessity of family support for the transgender community.
The documentary emerges at a crucial time as the estimated two million transgender people in India continue to confront societal stigma. Despite some legal advancements, many still experience equality challenges in education, employment, and healthcare. The filmmakers hope that the universal themes of acceptance in "Amma's Pride" can inspire greater understanding and compassion across India and beyond.
After premiering at film festivals, the documentary was showcased in Chennai on the International Trans Day of Visibility, alongside workshops designed to promote community dialogue and support for trans individuals. Srija and Arun now envision a family of their own, expressing hopes for a nurturing future. "I would like to become a grandmother soon," Valli adds, radiating optimism amidst the challenges the family has faced.
